In today’s busy society, it is easy for people to feel lost and alone. This is especially true for children, who may have challenging environments. When you notice concerning behavioral changes within you child such as anger, aggression or rebellion it is important to understand that it should not be dismissed as simply bad behavior. Rather than incorrect actions as a result of this behavior continuously punished a parent should consider trying to understand and remove the root cause of these behavioral changes.
Addressing The Childs Behavior Alone Is Not The Answer
With an ever-growing number of cases involving juvenile offenders, it is clear that something must be done to address the problem. While there are many factors that contribute to juvenile delinquency, it is important to remember that change starts at home. Children who feel loved and supported by their parents are less likely to engage in delinquent behavior. Therefore, it is important for parents to also take a look at the environments their child is exposed to, especially their home environment/environments, to understand why negative behavior may be occurring. In many cases of juvenile delinquency the key factor that lead to this behavior was often a sense of belonging the child attempted to acquire, which they did not receive elsewhere.
Be Involved
As parents, we play a vital role in the development of our children, we provide guidance that will ultimately help shape their worldview. It is our responsibility to instill values and cultivate the correct perspective that will help them grow into responsible adults. One of the most important things we can do is to be active and involved in their lives. Notice them and carefully take note of what they are saying to understand what they are facing.
Too often, we see parents who are disengaged from their children’s lives. This is however, understandable due the various situations we all find ourselves in with different demands. They may be working long hours or simply not spending enough time with them at home due to other factors. As a result, their children are left to fend for themselves and are more likely to get into situations and environments that lead to unhealthy behavior. Although it is challenging time is one the best things you can give your child.
Be Firm But Understanding
It is important to set clear expectations and rules for your children. They should know what is expected of them and what the consequences will be if they break the rules. But it is also important to be flexible and to show them that you understand they are still learning and growing.
Be The Example
One of the best ways to prevent juvenile delinquency is to provide positive role models for your children. Show them that you care about your community and that you are willing to work hard to make it a better place. Help them to see that there are people who care about them and want them to succeed.
Encourage Open Communication About All Feelings
When your child communicates their feelings, even in a negative manner that you believe requires discipline, it is important to understand that this communication from their side is valuable and must still be heard in order for the root problem to be understood. Encourage open communication, allowing your children to express their feelings, and to listen to them when they do. This does not mean you should not discipline but rather pair discipline with love. Acknowledge their concerns and offer support. Let them know that you are there for them and that you will help them through whatever they are going through.
Change Starts At Home
The juvenile justice system is in need of reform, but it starts with each of us doing our part at home. We must be willing to work hard to provide our children with the foundation they need to grow into responsible, productive adults. Only then can we hope to see real change in our society.
Information provided in this article was paraphrased from a telephone interview with Zandi Witbooi, an expert in the field of social work in South Africa.
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